What do you do when you see someone close to you go through the same things you did at her age?
I hate when parents are fighting, but instead of fighting with each other they fight through the children. Is it really necessary to badger the kids? Is it their fault that mommy is snotty or daddy can't shut up? In all honesty, can they be held responsible for simply being conceived?
I don't know what to do. It's one thing to try to help, but what kind of help would I give?
I'm writing a paper on blogging and politics, and I was wondering if anyone had insight for me. Here are the questions.
1. Do you think bloggers influenced the outcome of the elections? How so?
2. Do you think blogging will become a stronger influence in politics and the way the government is run?
3. Most blogs are not regulated and could possibly contain false information. Do you think this should influence the way people view blogs, especially when it comes to making decisions based on the information?
4. Regardless of the answer to #3, do you think people do actually think about the validity of blogs?
5. What are some things you have heard bloggers say regarding the candidates that appalls you? What are some things that you supported seeing on blogs?
6. Do you think that our generation is more likely to read and believe blogs? Do you think our generation reads newspapers or watches CNN/Fox/other news shows?
Recently, there was a featured post about a guy who liked a girl. Though the story seems simple, the problem is that this relationship was more of a love-triangle, except that there could never be resolution because the girl was in love with a fictional character. To the point that she blogged about him, wrote poetry about him, mentioned him regularly, in a sense she essentially treated this fictional character like a real person. Like a real crush.
What the guy wanted to know was, not only what he should do, but why girls act this way. Here is my response:
The reason girls get obsessed over a guy like Edward Cullen is because he is the perfect boyfriend, is husband material, and requires absolutely no work. Real men, and real relationships for that matter, require work.
Unfortunately our culture has become obsessed with making everything easier. The fact that we have drive-thrus for Starbucks and Walgreens, the fact that we have video games to play sports so that we don't even have to leave our homes, the fact that we can talk to people and play games with them without leaving the couch just proves this idea.
In all honesty, I know both girls AND guys who are obsessed with not only fictional characters, but impossible standards for their future spouses/partners. The only way a person can deal with liking this kind of a person is to not deal with this person. Liking a series or character is one thing. Wanting him/her to be real is another. In this world, we can't afford to deal with smoke and mirror based relationships. Life is too short.
I've always liked closure. It's much easier (and safer) to just not be friends with someone anymore instead of leaving yourself open enough to fix a relationship. My roommate and I are trying to reopen a friendship with someone who betrayed us both quite badly. I'm scared because I don't know if she'll just backstab me and take my friends again, or if she'll actually be the nice person I know she can be.
*sigh* Life is just too dramatic at times.
|I've always heard that you need to be a friend in order to have one. Yet in movies, being a friend is so frighteningly clear that it would take an airhead the size of Paris Hilton to mess it up. In real life, clarity doesn't come so easy. So, that is the question I pose today. How is one a friend? Or, more importantly, how does one be a friend to different people the way that they need you to be?|